Comments on: Love Life

By: Findlow

Findlow — Tue, 24 May 2016 11:18:32 +0000

Sally, from what I've just read, and what I know of your amazingly inventive fundraising with the faithful help of dear Foggy, the fact that none of these silly men have stuck by you is definitely their loss. You absolutely deserve a kind and understanding companion, and I really hope he is waiting in the wings somewhere. I suspect he is, and try not to get too hung up about age – nearly forty is not old, however ancient your ME-bashed body feels!
The very best of luck to you, and thanks so much for all you do. I must go to bed now, but tell Foggy I'll be donating online tomorrow.

By: Anna Jones

Anna Jones — Tue, 24 May 2016 11:18:04 +0000

I'm sorry to read that the relationship didn't work out, although I'd like to say good for you for not settling for someone who clearly wasn't interested in helping you carry your heavy baggage (ie. Your health)

I hope you will find someone who fits in with your life and makes you very happy, if that's what you still want.

Best wishes

By: Kristina Schwende

Kristina Schwende — Tue, 24 May 2016 11:18:01 +0000

Boy can I ever relate to this post. But I am… was married to someone who I met while healthy. We both imagined a very active life together. He was also incredibly caring and a hopeless romantic. I adored his family – I truly thought I had it all! Then, just two short years later, I injured my ankle. It wasn't even serious – but it turned into a nightmare we never could have foreseen. First it was just intense pain, Then, three years later, I got slammed with ME. That was the beginning of the end. I then seemed to add to my chronic shopping list every year. Eventually I became housebound and he became my caregiver. Our dreams of an active life and wonderful intimacy were gone. Yet, he was still so loving and patient until four years later he announced he wanted out… and he had a girlfriend… who he met hiking. Once again, my world came crashing down and I now find myself starting over at 55, single and disabled. I NEVER could have foreseen this. BUT, I have also met amazing people, from both the ME and chronic pain communities, I never would have met otherwise. My faith is deeper than ever, and I have discovered strength I never knew I had. Once I get re-established, it is my desire to help others through their struggles.
Sally is someone with incredible gifts and great compassion. She has a strong desire to advocate for others with ME, which is why she brought Foggy to life. I learn so much from her. I consider myself blessed to have met her and call her my friend. I never would have met her were it not for ME.
Look for the blessings, they are there. But don't look for certainty, it will drive you crazy. None of us can be certain of what tomorrow brings. We just need to make sure we don't live in fear. This is tougher to be sure, but let's not stop trying, OK? OK.